Back to the Basics - Questions to ask yourself when you get confused

Q: What are you measuring?

A: feelings

Adjectives used measure feelings of the person using them. For example, when a fool calls a wise man stupid, does that actually make the wise man stupid, or does that make it more apparent that the fool does not know how to appreciate the presence of a wise man? I think the latter.
The goal should be to accurately describe and measure your emotions. It does not make sense to measure an opinion with another opinion, the evaluation of judgement, evaluation and conclusion on top of another judgement, evaluation and conclusion, but rather to become aware of the facts and negate all opinions.

describe them accurately or describe your own feelings accurately

A: The answer can be derived via the part of speech of a word
Q: What variable is being measured when you're mad? Yourself.

Q: What variable are you descrbing?
Q: How to evaluate your feelings?
Q: What makes you conclude that?
Q: How did your goals change?

Encourages you to think about goal-setting and decision making and intuitiion (common sense) process

Q: What variable to change?
Q: What varaible makes you [insert bad feeling emotion here]? And how can you change (control) this variable?
Q: What are your priorities at the moment - both physiologically and intellectually? - Remember, you can't set intellectual priorities on a bad algorithm.

Know that you have better options and possibilities at a better life, this is why millionares spend money elsewhere other than CD's in the principle of "I have better options" and "My time could be spending my time better elsewhere."

Q: How did you learn the values of how to interact with others?

Revisit this, beause it showcases something deeply wrong with your childhood, without reparenting yourself, it is simply impossible for you to change as otherwise.

Q: What are you attached to? What is holding you back? Change this variable, and see newer betetr people.
Q: What is the goal now?

The goal is to accurately describe your thought process and feelings and observe them and to not react to them but rather find out how to contorl them.

Q: Where/When did you make your decisions?

Follow up: Did you make your decision when you were emotional? If so, what can you do to avoid "needing to" make decision in an emotional state?

Q: How did you learn [insert idea here]?
Q: If you cannot avoid the stressful situation, how would you learn to keep calm under pressure?

Since is it already decided that you can't remove the cause of the anxiety, how would you deal with it? In other words, what comforting techniques would you use?

Q: What is stopping you from formulating extreme thoughts?

Such as, in a situation where money is tight, what is stopping you from formulating and pursuing the idea of stealing from a bank or the poor or the elderly, or just stealing in general, period? This traces back into childhood when you learned self-control, justification, tolerance, resiliency - all in response to pshyiological needs being met. Sometimes, when in the presence of others and we get "overtly" nervous it is an indication that our parents didn't tend to the desire to make us comfortable in said social situation.
The only reason why we love our parents, is because they were the only ones given to us, if we had the option to, I would choose to love Jeff Bezos and want him to be a father to me more than my current biological parents.

Q: What is your body subconsciosusly seeking?

a place to call home, a place to improve,

Q: What does it mean to truly feel "loved" and "fine?"

I don't mean like the involuntary eventual subconscious settling in of a realtively peaceful attitude either, as victims of torture have the saem feelings too, but what makes that different from your experience?

Q: Are you identifying idealistic possibilties or practical possibilties?
Q: What do your feelings indicate?
Q: Why are you attached?

A: only here for the food tending to be physiological necessities

Q: Why do you love?
Q: What is your level of tolerance? What is your breaking point?

If you were a prisoners stranded on an island and tortured there, would you leave the island knowing that there is no food, water or liveable shelter nearby? No, ofc you wouldn't, same thing happens to us mentally when we are raised.

Q: What exceptions will you allow to your rules?
Q: Is thing something you want to do longer-term? If not, then find a way to change it before it becomes longer-term.

Is is sustainable?

Q: Is what you're chasing even tangiable and possible?

Are you chasing feeling happy being in an abusive family? That takes way too much adaptation and compromising of intellectual goals. If so, that is not a reasltic emotional possibiltiy and you should probably let go and move on for good.

Q: Are you changing the goal or the plan?
Q: What variable needs to change in order to realign your sights with this goal?
Q: What are you?

Are you your body

Is your body a part of your sensed enviornment?

Are you your sensed enviornment?

Q: What makes something convincing?

What about it appeals to your human senses?

Q: How much will you tolerate and become resilient to to get food?
Q: What varaible are you descrbing?

A: Are you descrbing them or your perspective of them? Because that matters, recognizing the limitations of your attitude as it's own variable.

Q: Are you making a theory or a prediction?

Those are the two common types of thought processes, see, how all of this goes back to the goal of accurately descrbing and the scientific thought process?

Q: Can you put it out into an algorithm what you're feeling, do you have the patience and emotional awareness to do that?
Q: What is it that makes [insert subject here] so appealing and fascinating?

Satisfy your curiosity with it and move on.

Q: What are you sensing?
Q: What are you looking for?

Is what you're looking for realistic? Not just, is it possible? Not just practically possible, but is it practically possible for you?
looking for love

Q: What are the facts about your feelings?

This proves that feelingsare real and objective as with validating them.

Q: What makes something a big deal?
Q: What are you tolerating (the presence of at the moment)?
Q: What will change your mind?

By recognizing conditions that will change your mind, you are realizing that free will isn't real and decision making processes and conclusions are just waiting to happen in the event of and that we are all robots that run on algorithm and that nothing is really real - WAKE UP!

Q: What does it really mean to recognize as a person?

I understand people as a part of their enviornment. In other words, what charasteristics makes someone a person? What makes them not an alien in a a human being meat suit?

Q: What is your current perspective on the subject matter?

What are the practical possiblities you are identifying? What route do you want to pursue

Q: What was your initial thoughts on this?

What was your opinion on it as a child?

Q: Why are you loyal to this company?

Is it because other companies are worse? Because no on in their right mind would stick to a less than ideal company in favor for loyalty attachment.

Q: What is your (temporary) theory on your own behavior?

Explain your behavior. Use scientific terms like (justification/explanation) theory, hypothesis, conclusion, etc. to describe your train of thought.
Religion can be used as a temporary explanation for human behavior, but not longer-term.

Q: How do you know when enough is enough?

In other words, how do you know what is enough to tolerate? Because if you tolerate all pains, including rape and torture, you are bound to get nowhere?

A: Your feelings, this is why your feelings are always valid.
A: moreover, this means you must have realistic goals with your feelings in terms of cooperation level, etc.

The question is: What are you willing to tolerate in order to get good or survive?
What to tolerate and what not to tolerate feelings do matter as it determines out tolerance eleve and breaking point - you wouldn’t tell a raped person that their feelings don’t matter, then don’t do that with small-scale things as well.

Q: what variable are you identifying?
Q: I am a human being, how would your goal-setting process change if you had a different body? This is why human specific empathy and how things specifically affect our senses matter. I need to know my limitations so I can know what to break.
Q: What does it mean to be emotionally healthy?
Q: How do you know when you're not emotionally healthy?

depending on your own feelings and intuition

Q: How should you feel after someone raped you?
Q: How should you evaluate your own feelings in order to mentally move onto the next level of your life - assuming that you have a need to, which would depends on if you pursue intellectual endeavours or not, as those who don't have any intellectual endeavours, don't feel a need to evaluate their feelings objectively.
Q: How to understand (evaluate/judge) people? - because it's essentially how you indirectly judge and make conclusions about yourself, then less you practice understanding, the less logic of problem solving skills you'll use in your own everyday life.
Q: How things mentally work
Q: What are some things you can improve in your life?
Q: What does setting and pursuing this goal require?

Obviously it requires you to be alive

Q: Why is this considered a good thing?
To undo what you learned: ask yourself: How did you learn this?
Is this how the brain works?
What are you doing?
What makes you think these thoughts? Limit these thoughts and expereinces by identifying it
Even if it's not your fault, are you mentally ready?
Do i really miss you or do i miss the feeling?

Is it important to identify what you're missing so that you can replace it.

Why are you not curious?

Curiousity solves all problems as it brings closure
People do things for 1 of 2 or both underlying reasons: curiosity or their security is jeapordized, most commonly with a sense of both.

What is the best practical route?
What decision are you making? decision making is a skill.
What was your initial reaction?
What makes you attached to someone?
What are you curious about? What will satisfy your curiosity? In other words, how will you find closure?
Where did i go wrong?

misidentifying / misdiagnosing the problem is a part of the problem.

If you hate it so much, why do you keep comming back?

If you don't like it, leave.

What is your vision?

Because if you don't have one you are on a confused state of mind
What is the route that you are identifying that is possible? What is your conditioning? Thin in terms of emotional possibilties - do you want to be happy with mediocracy? What does your goal require?

what are you waiting for?
What is the difference between telling vs teaching?
If the world was falling apart and you only had to save essential items. What come you save? This showcases what you are attached to and it must only be the basics so you can rebuild everything you lost at the touch of the basics. And no, your job does not count.

This is why it's important to stay humble and not attached to mediocore things

what does love mean to you?

Becauase your notion of love plays a role into thought formulation and goal-setting

To you, what is the purpose of a family?
how do you know when to quit

you intuitive feelings and objective measurment of how much you are choosing to tolerate

what is this an example of?
if it could be done in an instant? Would you still be attached to it?
what are you trying to learn? What is your goal? Cant chase goal if you don't know what it is that you want

since everything is learning, treat it as seriosuly

Q: What are you expecting?

Because you obviously don't expect to die, so there is a reason why you are still here - it's because you see potential no matter how crappy it is to sustain life.

What are you trying to do at the momnet?

This is what your goal is.

How to care about someone in one way but someone else in another way
How to not give a fuck

Does it affect your survival?
Will it kill if you?

If not, then it's not worth crying over?

Do you see potential in them?
What do you want to learn?
How do you want to learn?
How do you want to lead?
How do you know when to stop?

This is a leadership decision, to eveluate potential and possibilties

What are you looking for in a friend?
what are you anticipating?
how to be a human being?
What would a girl do?

Tips:

Develop the awareness to recognize and conclude that "whatever you're doing clearly isn't working out," so change some varaible, and, no "you" are not a variable, you are made up of many experiences
I have not failed 10,000 times, I just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
stop chasing the feeling
Think of it as a measurement of your 5/6 senses
Think of everything as taking care of your physical body
Do it in order

You can't stop being clumsy outside if you are clumsy and always rushed in the home, that is simply not how human beings work - would you look forward to working if you didn't have a good place to come back to at home? Would you even bother going to work - unless extorted?

Everything you do is goal-setting and pursuing, so take every decision seriously
Focus in the evaluation process and thinking process not the conclusion or adjectives used to describe the process
Think like a scientist in terms of what variables need to change in order to get what output - the hardest part is identifying the varaible that needs to be changed.
The fact that your unaware of why is exactly why you're stuck in your place, so become aware of why - the actual variable that needs to change - and move on.
Think in terms of thinking style - this is the basis of psychology: recognizing mental variables involved. It is literally the science of empathy, compassion with the goal of actually understanding people, indirectly proving that free will isn't real. Psychology is the new justified religion.
Everything has to do with taking care of your body and basic motor skills, so take every decision seriosuly as a gymnastics endeavour as well as a leadership decision.
Studying your own mental processes is literally the only way to learn, so, don't be afraid to follow your intuition
Don't overcomplicat it: Master the basics - explore and learn - think like a scientist - recognize (realistically changable) variables
There are prerequsities steps to everything, likewise, this should be what is guiding the setting of your priorities.
To prevent being caught up with complicated feelings (which lead to attachment since you lack closure), go back to the basics
Connect the thought to the enviornment.
Treat everything as a variable and consider it's limiations

If it's a varibale, you cna isolate it's measurement of it's presence.

Learn to be a curious kid again
Instead of asking people how they feel i ask people how they think they should feel, this puts it into perspective of rationalizing ones own emotions and thinking in terms of objective life decisions since everything people do is a reflection of their priorities and what they think they should do in life.
Think like a scientist when setting goals - here are the charasteristics of goal-setting:

specific measurable effects, UNLIKE conservative POV spanking thinking that everything is subjective, enabling them conservative thoughts. Intuition is objective.

Retrace steps and go back to childhood as a child's state for unbiased curiosity
Think like a scientist to prevent emotions from developing and getting an objective measurement
The problem is the sustaining of the present tense
idenitfy the conditions
It makes sense to have longer-term effects of forced feelings and minor trauma that some might even call good trauma (commonly referred to as good stress), this is why it makes sense to try something, then immediately spend time analyzing the cause
Think of everything as a desire - because that is what it is - and encourage yourself to justify it or change it
Hating something is just as bad as being attached to something via love or as otherwise - might as well stop hating it and change what you hate instead of tolerating it's presence.
Descibe what you are thinking
There are universally recognized justified feelings like being chased with a knife as being a justified form of fear - an in-depth scientific explanation is not needed for this
All problems are deep rooted problems that go beyond common sense surface level solutions

clumsiness is an example of one - mine steps from childhood uncertainty
This also supports me theory of a depressed person cannot just choose to "just stop being depressed" - that is the nature of addiction and depression.

Just like a company seeking to hire newer, better employees, you must seek a replacement before you decide to fire someone - assuming they handle critical operations

Spanking across generations will eventually die off as children will come to a realization, one generation or another that they deserve better lifestyle.

Saying should have does not make sense - remove it from vocabulary

by that logic i should have been born as jeff bezo's son
By using should you fail to realize why you did it to become with - emotionally and intellectually. Don't just use common sense solutions, those are only temporary.

Psychology says in order to solve problems you must go back to the bascis of addressing physiological needs via the maslows hierarchy of needs conditions
Common sense overlooks the importance of mastering the basics - which most men don't have.
Some thoughts are merely a form of a survival mechanism/defense mechanism
No, you don't not need a family and lack of independance, what you really need is a new family that truly loves you so that you can pursue your intellectual goals.
everything is setting and pursuing goals, this is why I must get the basics right as the more i learn the more goals I must set and pursue to address those
Accept where you are in life, stop pretening you're in an ideal position because you're not.
Set goals and don't alllow mind to change
Be blatantely honest, if you are vulnerable and find the person you're with has no potential, set boundaries and let them know accordingly.

You're doing them a favor by letting them go and disabling their behavior

It's not "how not to care" but, "how to selectively care"
What is keeping you alive is also what is limiting you from reaching your full potential

example: your job keeps you alive, but also takes your time away from building a buisness in real estate when you could be doing many more things, it just gives you enought to survive not thrive.

The answer is actually really simple, but you tolerting it is exactly what is making it complicated.
Set goals so you know what you're looking for

Then you can decide if it's realistic or not.

use what you learn as that is a part of learning how to leaern

too much theory and you will learn nothing

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