Why "Feelings" and "Emotions" Matter

Why?

I have made some observations as to the changing of my feelings and why they matter. It seems as if I am subconsciously challenged by conservative-like thoughts that undermine human-specific seneses and feelings with the priority of common sense decisions, which are historically known to not end well.

To understand how emotions work is to understand how human beings work, which means you are the aware of what variables to change to get your desired outcome. Is it that simple, so, whenever, you find yourself desiring for something less than ideal (that you intuitively know).

Here I will detail the objective fact about feelings, and refine the way we understand feelings and their development.

Every decision is an emotional decision

Calmness is an emotion

This is why you must learn to be calm, learn to tolerate, learn confidence in the presecne of pressure and the storm (resisting peer pressure)

learning to objectively observe your emotions is a skills, you must learn this skill to envision and pursue better goals
once you live on your own, you'll quickly realize how lack of good quality air, food, water and shelter affect your emotions.
I've said it before, being calm is a feeling/an emotion
The goal is to explain behavior - both physical and mental beahviors
I can prove it by this one sentence and thought provoking question?

how long to wait for a relationship to come back together? That is based on intuition.
What (signals the brain of a raped child) tells a raped child that what they have expereinced is completely unacceptable and should go reported?

Emotional goals and feelings goals are a real thing and just as important as motor skills goals (ex. build a tower, vs. be comfortable building a tower, be happy building a tower)

The goal of a child in preschool is to feel comfortable amongst other people instead of being scared of them as scaredness is an initial reaction and emotion.
Feelings are real and must be validated as an emotional possibilties

Saying feelings don't matter is like telling a tortured person "it's all in your head" which is true and exactly WHY it matters so much instead of dsensitizing their problems

Exploring feelings = being sympathetic, what if you were born poor, how would you deal with it? This encourages you to think and set goals from their perspective and most importantly ACKWNOLEDGE it as a REAL POSSIBILTY.
Is it possible to be happy being raped? No. and it shouldn't be an emotional possibility or goal as well.

Thinking in terms of emotional possibilties
Examples of emotional possibilties:

Being happy being raped is like trying to jump off a 3,000 foot cliff and trying to survive, the point it, it's not going to happen.
Is it possible to love again after being heartbroken?

Is it possible to make someone feel comfortable in the presence of "scary" stimuli?
It is okay to safetly explore emotional possibilities, however, when your security is jeapordized that must be tended to prior to exploring sexual possibilties, as without food, water, or shelter how is one even able to develop sexual thoughts or otherwise emotional attachment?
The goal should be to accurately describe emotional conditions
There is an objective way to measure feelings and emotions

This is called the process of emotional self-awareness
Similar to the concept of "objectively measuring pain"

Q: what are you measuring? A: feelings

most of the time when you're mad, you're indirectly measuring your feelings

Recogniging emotional possibilties is powerful in changing your mind to ponder upon more realistic possibilties

you'll never be happy here, recognize this, and move onto different possibilties and options: but do NOT do the same thing over and over again - that's called being unaware of the past (the past is the only way to learn)

The goal is to be calm in stressful situations that cannot be avoided - ex. talking to boss at work - and avoid stressful sitautions that can be avoided - ex. talking to the cops

Before pursuing make sure it's possible first

For example, is it possible to be happy and truly love with an abusive family? No, that is emotioanlly impossible.
Consider the range of emotional possibilties and set and pursue goals from there.

Small decisions are a "big deal"

Yes, it's possible to have a mini-heartbreak
How you make the small decision is how you will make the bigger decisions

To understand why you're mentally doing something, you must first identify the root cause - the variable at hand that is mentally and physically causing you to perform said motor skills, from there you can either choose to eliminate it from your life, tolerate it, or go beserk and not choose. between the two.

For example, if you're "scared to be great" you must understand how this sensation of "being scared" develops first, then you work to identify and eliminate it.
In essense, this is reparenting yourself, unlearning your pain
Think in terms of steps
You can share instructions on how to make a pizza, but if the person does not want to follow said instructions, then there is no point.

Don't forget, you are not an idea, you are a human being with sensations and feelings

human specific senses formulating thoughts

Think of emotions as "emotional conditions" - this will make it on par with physical conditions
There are not enough words to describe how you're feeling, there aren't word for those feelings yet.
Feelings are specific, there is no enough emotional litearacy to desscribe the unique set of emotions and feelings people feel, that is what makes us human being.
Thinking process has a correlation between feeling felt.

If someone believes in the death penalty as sanctifying the value of human life as opposed to rehabilatative justice where we actually target the variables at failt (ex. traumatic childhood), they are likly to apply the same logic towards other areas of life - that is, not looking at the varibles to change (as in family), trying to specialize or seek dogmatic meaning in things, without considering all of the variables involved. "How to understand people"

Measuring abstract variables like "afford" and "opportunity" will get you nowehere unless you actually specify what the thought process is behind to identify what it means to "afford" or "opportunity" and possibilties and things of that nature.

Feelings are real objectively measurable abstract variables - those who claim feelings are subjective, clearly don't want to acknowledge validating feelings. Such as those feelings of trauma ptsd and rape survivors, as those are all objectively scary. You must make sense of your feelings within boundaries.

In order to prevent developing feelings or otherwise attachment, you must understand the variable at fault in order to change to prevent those feelings
Feelings are the primary mover in the convincing process, without feelings, none of us would be convinved towards one ideal/goal/possibiltity over another

This is why it is so important to explain your desires, justifying it, or else you're feelings - which make up who you are - will be easily convinced, meaning you will be involuntarily convinced.
Think about it: you are mad at someone for stealing your candy, that person bribes you with 1 million dollars, will you be happy, mad or sad? This feelings experimentation showcases the different feelings and emotions people experience in exposure to different stimuli and recognition.

Without analyzing your feelings and why specifically the way you feel you won't be able to actually solve any problems in your life permanently an active your best self and become a CEO.

In the same way you wouldn't ignore a wound if it's bleeding, the same way you shold treat your emotions.

Emotional awareness

The words you use to describe what your thinking v. What you're brain is REALLY thinking.
focus on the feeling

The goal is to aaccurately describe what is going on in the brain - to put your feelings into words
Is it worth sacrificing your sleep, hygiene and mental health for acquiring new heavenly leads or any leads for that matter of fact? What are the limits on exceptions and tolerance?
Know the limitations of your behavior, basically, to plan & predict your behavior requires you to understand all possiblities and limitations - Obviously, if you were in a state of very deprived sleep and offered 30 billion dollars to stay awake for more than 1 week or, if failed, you would wager your life savings - i have 4000 dollars at the moment - the obvious choice is to just play it safe with your 4 grand given your deprived sleep conditions not meeting the prerequisite for pursuing the billion dollar sleep offer as well as the limits of the physiological tolerance of your body. This proves there are tolerance limits to what objectively measurable level of pain you ars able to tolerate and not able to tolerate. Moreover, it is up to you to program your everyday life so you either avoid triggers or ease/somehow satisfy the impluse. This is why it's important to set limits called boundaries on tolerance. Tolerance limits= boundaries. Write down your limits
Every single decision comes down go emotion and feelings makes sure you choose to pursue the best emotional possibilities
Spanking refugee
No one wants to perform a root cause analysis on you to identify those deep rooted traumas you have causing clumsiness and what not so it's up to you. - i have identified the good objectively perfect life on how to live it which is why I don't want to give it up. This is my vision.
Calmness is a feeling
Recognize subconscious defense mechanisms
every decision is a survival decision
You can't just "force" someone to decvelop a true desire for loving to read by forcing them to read books - that is what happened to me: my mother would always force me to read books to get AR points; That is the opposite of what to do - that is not how people work or their emotions work, and you must use the same logic with yourself as well.

My insuition was right, my family was fucked up this whole time, I've always longed for people that loved me unconditionally, and my family was simply not one of them, I recognize that and realize that now.

Objectively measuring feelings and emotions
without recognizing that feelings are real, how can you choose to feel good?

Exactly, you can't, so validate your feelings and move on.
To control your emotions, yo umust first recognize that you have them, so don't ignore them like a sterotypical, masculine, unhumbled, incel-minded male

Everything, all innovations: starts with an impulse, this is why small things matter
You don't know to evalute if you're constnatly stressed if you don't know what it feels like to NOT be constantly stressed. This is why knowing how to evaluate feeling conditions is so important as it unlocks and explores more feelings that could be better
Nothing is a big deal, don't get attached at all, however, you need to tend to your physiological necessities, so that is a big deal.
Identifying what you're addicted to - what variable are you addicted to?

Are you addidted to the feeling or the action?

whilst it's importnat to dream, it's also important to have realistic feelings
Knowing what will change your mind
Theory of love is attachment - define love on your own terms
intution is all we got
The logic of the route of resisting temnptation and completely preventing temptation altogether follow a similar logic of learning as to how someone might get addicted to alochol

addiction temptation

There are fact about feelings

This means feelings are real and to be validated - any feeling.
If you negate any feeling, then you are negating the emotional possibilties for justification of feelings of trauma survivors - survivors of rape, PTSD, war, etc - as these people had real objectively measurable sufferable events.
Ackwnoledge that feelings are objectively measruable - we obviously assign sympathy to those who were raped and have family members who were murdered.

The goal is to initially explore and to then set boundaries
Emotions can be used as a justifiation
Justifications tend to change the further we understand a situation
Only you can evaluate what you're feeling, so don't let anyone else devalue this.
Finding closure before truly moving on
Emotional awarenmess is the ability to identify and resolve deep rooted emotional issues - something most men, including myself, were not taught
Without learning to control your emotions or at least your impluses, you can never be a teach leader and a responsible adult simply because the world is not organized that way.
Is it impossible to separate feelings from action
Emotional Maturity has an objective defintion and route: there is only one way to become calm during the storm and only one way to become uncalm during the storm - no one voluntarily controls their emotions to become more scared, is it only the one who is able to voluntarily control their emotions who can stay calm.

Without recognizing that feelings and emotions are real and able to be controlled, one is simply not able to move forward with their life. This is why, after studying all conservativee opinions, I negate all of them as none of them showcase charasteristics of emotional maturity, rather sound like teenage boys that have been thru traumatic situations and want to macho it out only to be humbled by a skilled feminine dominant cheerleaders/wrestler female.

Of all deeper rooted emotional causes, it can all be traced back to the basics - a lack of mastering the basics. This is why I think gymnastics is the best sport as it addresses all motor skills.

This is why I suggest "going back to preschool" to relearn "how to be a human being"

complex emotions stem from the basics
planning is preparation and preperation is reliabiltiy and reliability is confidence
You can't quit social situation out of nowhere as you have been conditioned to lock away that impulsive deisre - this is how your parents taught you how to not to be shy.
Unlearned forced trust by recognizing there are better possibilites that are not only theoritically possible but practically dooable.
Recognize that there are justified and unjustified emotions - In other words, how one should feel in response to said stimuli

The most obvious one most able bodied people can reosnate to is: If charged at by a person with a knife, this rightfully ignites fear.

I believe there is an objective meaning in each feeling comparing it to the live that one should objectively live.
feelings are unspoken communication

thereby making this form of unspoken communication real even those it is not recognized as real

Those masculine male ideas that tend to ignore feelings are actually the worst way to control anything becaue in any other situation this logic would not work, you must undetstand your feelings to control them, this means to understand the source of those feelings.

love is related to everything, meaning it plays a role in formulating thoughts, so you must monitor it, your mind must watch itself.

Ignoring feelings means to ignore the fact that love exists

Not the convervative christians who deny that love exists or any feeling exist for that matter promoting fake masculine ideals.

All feelings require to some degree: vulenrablity, the more vulenrablity the more intense the feeling can get

Examples:

Sex requires vulnerability and trust - it can be voluntary or forced (rape)

They can call you schitzophrenic, but imagination of anything is a mild form of schitzophrenia, literally the defintion the presence of mentally seeing something is called a "vision" - the difference is to make it realistic as opposed to merely ideal.
don't know what love feels like

"for survival"

all decisions are guided for survival, including unhealthy coping mecahnisms - nicotine keeps some people alive and grounded

Emotional intimacy isn't fake

Feelings are real

if your life were planned out beforehand and you knew about it, as in maximum stabiltiy, then it wouldn't be special as you would know you are doomed to a mediocore life, it is our ability to not see this happenign which it what makes it special

omnipotent - all knowing

Provoking Questions:

What even are feelings and emotions?
What are the facts about the limitations of feelings and emotions?
how do you know when enough is enough?

Intuition.
This is how your feelings work, knowing how your feelings work and emotional prediction will help you gauge which feelings to act on, this is why emotional intelligence is important to a man instead of "ignoring your feelings" unlike the traditional masculine unhumbled image.

Where are emotions sourced from?

Vulnerability, but if you aren't vulnerable, you also won't be able to experiene feelings of happiness.

What keeps love strong?

We must quantify love.
lack of closure, lack of clarity,
You must find that sweet spot between lack of closure and knowing everything

How were you shown you were loved as a kid?
What is your emotional goals?

Think of all of the emotional possibilities?
Should your goal to be to tolerate the presence of violence?
Should you be happy with being raped? even if it's temporary?

The true test of your ability to truly understand something is your ability to predict what will happen in the future, this is very useful for goal-setting. That being said, it is useful to apply the same logic towards emotional prediction. This will help you avoid situations that will otherwise make you justifiably sad, or otherwise negative emotions. You can also use this to explore the real meaning behind your feeling to solve past traumas, such as my childhood trauma. This will help you recognize if you are "looking for somethign that does not exist" - in other words, happiness in an abusive family simply will never exist.

By recognizing emotional prediction, you will be able to prevent a lot of other feelings from taking place, such as complacency.

Mental behavior is predictable, this is called having a vision and making it a plan!

Predict when nothing good (emotionally) can come out of that

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